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Don't leave things unsaid

Remember Blue • January 1, 2021

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"When you are a little kid, you are a bit of everything: artist, scientist, athlete, scholar. Sometimes, it seems life is like a process of giving those things up, one by one. I guess we all have one thing we regret giving up. One thing we really miss. And we gave up because we were too lazy. We couldn’t stick it out. Or because we were afraid." Kevin Arnold, The Wonder Years

When on your deathbed it would be great to say that you have no regrets but this is seldom the case. Bonnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care with patients with very short times left to life, recorded the regrets of her patients. The five most common regrets her patients expressed were:

  1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
  3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Many factors help enable these regrets in our lives. Fear is perhaps one of the more difficult ones to overcome. Words can be one of the scariest things.

Have you ever said something you regret and felt like undoing it was too big an obstacle? Have you ever wanted to say "I love you" or "I'm sorry" to someone but fear held you back?  


We never know if the words we say to someone will be the last words we ever say to that person. With this in mind, perhaps the best thing to do is make sure that those words are not left unsaid when you are no longer able to say them. 

If you can't say the words in person, writing a letter is a good second-best. You may not be able to say the words you need to now, but don't leave them unsaid forever.



With Remember Blue you can store messages for your loved ones that are only released after you pass on. In this way you can make sure that nothing is left unsaid.

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